you name it, I’ve heard from someone being afraid of getting tricked into it.
people out there who prey on the inexperience of their partners in order to manipulate and control them.
But more often than not, the people who’re terrified of being trapped by a master manipulator are more afraid of the of the manipulative partner than the reality.
Many times when you scratch deep enough, that fear of being “trapped” by a gold-digger or a woman trying to lock you into a relationship via kids is more about how they feel about women as a And more to the point: the way you avoid manipulators and users is simple. It can sound weird to talk about boundaries in the context of a long-term – or even a short-term- relationship.
The question is whether you fight If you’re going to fight, you want to aim to resolve the source of conflict, not aim to wound the other person.
More importantly though: don’t let the anger linger.
That first relationship can be tricky because you’re basically groping in the dark. Nerd Love, both here and at Kotaku start off the same way: “I’ve never had a girlfriend”.Many my readers have a lot of anxiety over finding their first relationship.A successful relationship doesn’t mean staying with someone until you die, nor does avoiding a break-up make a relationship successful.You can stay in a relationship that makes you miserable until the day they carry you out in a pine box – personally, I’d call a failed relationship over the couple that realized they were done and made a clean break of it.
It’s one thing to stand up for yourself and advocate for your own interests.